What Wash Day Looks Like For Me

Hey guys,

As a 23 year natural, I’ve had to try so many different things to find out what is best for my hair. For most of my life, I wasn’t doing my own hair. My hair was in the hands of adults who I hoped would know what to do. Most of them were just doing the best they can. People didn’t seem to really care about the health of natural hair, it was just assumed you’d relax it in a couple years anyway.

Photo by J.B

I’ve since ditched Pink lotion, those fragile plastic combs I used to have to buy by the pack, sulfate shampoos, heat and most of what I used to. I’ve decided to use only natural hair products. I know you’re probably side-eyeing me right now because natural hair products are NOT cheap. However, it works for me because I’ve taken a low maintenance routine for my hair and so my products can last for like a year typically.

My favourite style: the twist out.

Before I get into what I do, I have 4a/3c/3b hair (I think). I’ve never actually measured my hair but it’s over 20 inches. Shrinkage and my hair are BFFs and nothing can come between them.

Wash day for me is a once a month affair. I can’t just hop into the shower in the morning, wash it and keep it pushing.

The first thing I have to do is detangle it. I do it in sections with my wide tooth comb and a spray bottle with a little bit of conditioner in it. This takes around 2 hours.

Usually, when I get to this stage of detangling, I give up and go wash it.


I shampoo with Shea Moisture’s Coconut and Hibiscus Shampoo. I really like this shampoo. After using it, my hair doesn’t feel dry. It feels moisturized, soft and shiny. It feels like I conditioned my hair. I have about one wash left in it, and I’ve had it for maybe 10 months or so. It was a whopping $1800JMD.

Photo was taken from: https://www.walgreens.com/store/c/sheamoisture-coconut-&-hibiscus-curl-&-shine-shampoo/ID=prod6057764-product

I then follow up with a deep conditioner. I use a bigger container than the one pictured below. My hair LOVES this stuff. I tend to leave it in my hair for a couple hours (sometimes with a plastic cap) because (1) it’s best to leave deep conditioner in your hair for the best results (2) by this point my hands feel like they’re going to drop off, I need a break. This conditioner is $1600 and it lasts maybe 5 months or so. Of course it depends on how much you use and how much hair you have and for me the answer is “a lot” for both questions.

Photo was taken from http://asherleenaturals.com/product/Deep%20Conditioner
The only thing that was in my hair here was the deep conditioner
This was all Asherlee Deep Conditioner Photo by K.S

After I detangle(again), twist my hair and wash out the deep conditioner, I use Shea Moisture’s Coconut and Hibiscus Line’s Curl Enhancing smoothie. It costs about $2200 but I got it as a gift. I’ve had it since March 2018 and I’ll have enough to last me into 2020. I don’t know if it does something special to my hair. However, it doesn’t do anything negative to it. I use a little on the front of my hair with some water when I’m leaving the house and my hair looks washed and ready. I’m not sure if I will purchase when it’s done but I’d recommend using it for thick curly hair. It is pretty moisturizing.

photo from: https://www.google.com/url?sa=i&source=images&cd=&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=2ahUKEwib8qXWi-3kAhUNj1kKHchmBAsQjRx6BAgBEAQ&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.priceline.com.au%2Fsheamoisture-coconut-hibiscus-curl-enhancing-smoothie-340-g&psig=AOvVaw3x-XrYyrDJRP9zUM5gND05&ust=1569539294897868

I also use SheaMoisture Raw Shea Butter Restorative Conditioner  as a leave in. I’ve used it as a conditioner before and it makes my hair look so nice and detangle much easier. Now I apply a couple pumps to my hair after I’m done twisting it. The price for this product is $1800 but I got it as a 2 for 1 deal last summer and so I recieved 2 products for that price. I finished one bottle that I was primarily using for a conditoner already but I natually use less for use as a leave in. I should have this product into next summer so money well spent.

Photo from: https://shop.naturallycurly.com/sheamoisture-raw-shea-butter-restorative-conditioner-13-oz/

Sometimes I add some raw shea butter to my ends and that sells for $250.

As you can see I don’t do anything spectacular. I wash it, condition it and add 2.5 products into my hair. I spray some of my conditioner water mixture  and curl enhancing smoothie later in the month if it feels dry. I then unravel my twists for a twist out before I wash again the following month. Yes it means my hair looks the same a majority of the time and it’s boring. If I had to comb this every day though, I would go crazy and so I just don’t. Styling and detangling alllllll of it is time consuming.

You can check out cheap alternatives for natural hair, some items to add to your dresser that will make your journey much easier, and another natural’s journey. 

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